An open letter to my parents…

 

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as a little girl I always looked up to both of you, and as a woman now I still do. Without either of you, I would not be the person I am today and for that I could never thank you enough. But here are some things that I want to be sure if I didn’t say it then, I get to say thank you now.

To Mom:

Thank you for believing in me when I didn’t believe in myself.

Thank you for doing things for me that I was capable of doing, but had so much anxiety over it, you did it for me.

Thank you for never shooting down a crazy idea or a dream that I had for myself.

Thank you for spending all of those agonizing hours shopping for prom dresses.

Thank you for that time in 4th grade where you surprised me with flowers and jewelry at school for Valentines Day.

Thank you for always being that mom who picked up and brought all of my friends back home.

Thank you for those days you rushed out of work in the dead of winter to try to make it to an away basketball game when I was in middle school.

Thank you for letting me dress like a total fool, side ponytail and all for my school pictures.

Thank you for that one time you dropped my birthday cake down the side of the cupboards and onto the floor at my party. (Yea, I still remember that.)

Thank you for instantly putting me in a bad mood every morning when you woke me up for school saying “wakey wakey.” What I would do to be able to hear that every day again.

Thank you for giving me my twisted humor.

Thank you for singing with me in the car every time.

Thank you for letting me always eat the leftover brownie and cake batter. (Even though you were putting me at risk for Salmonella poisoning.)  ūüėČ

And thank you for showing me what it is like to have the strongest bond a mother and daughter could have. You are my best friend, forever and always.

To Dad:

Thank you for showing me what being a child is all about.

Thank you for all of those days you took me hunting and trapping with you.

Thank you for teaching me how to fish and risking getting pricked by a sunfish every time I caught one just to take it off of the hook for me.

Thank you for my sarcasm.

Thank you for always letting me lay in your chair with you as I shed a few tears.

Thank you for teaching me how to parallel park, and going with me to get my license.

Thank you for also going on those horrible prom dress shopping trips.

Thank you for all of those little songs you use to sing and tease me with as a child. I still sing them in my head today. “Courtney, Courtney pudding pie….”

Thank you for being a dad and teaching me all of the things I will need to know in life.

Thank you for walking me down the isle.

Thank you for asking my mom to marry you.

Thank you for killing all of those spiders over the years.

Thank you for still wanting to claim me as your daughter when I wore this hideous choker for 3 years straight.

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and thank you for being there every time I needed you.

To the both of you:

Thank you for showing me what hard work looks like.

Thank you for pushing me to follow my dreams.

Thank you for staying married for the past 31 years.

Thank you for never grounding me.

Thank you for my sister.

Thank you for showing me the importance of family.

Thank you for wiping away all of my tears over the past 23 years.

Thank you for not buying me another bubba after I dropped my last one off of the side of the boat being a little brat. Because lets be honest, I probably needed to learn my lesson.

Thank you for believing in me.

Thank you for loving me.

And thank you for being the best parents in the world.

This thank you list could go on forever, but know for all of those times you have done anything for me, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. If there’s anything I know for certain, it’s that I will always have the two best friends a girl could ask for in my mother and in my father. I love you so much.

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Everyone needs self-care! Why it is so important.

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It is time to take charge of your life! Self-care is extremely important in everyone’s lives. We all need it to be able to function properly, to feel good, and to¬†create and maintain our relationships. Without it we become stressed, overwhelmed, and burnt out. And ladies! The leading cause of death for women is heart disease. We especially need to take care of ourselves. In this blog I will apply what I have learned throughout my schooling in Mental Health, my career, experience, and research I have done!

For those who read this, if you already do self-care, that’s awesome! If you don’t or do very minimal, I hope you learn some new things to help you do more. I tried to find the most recent study and what I found was those that are 25 years and older, only 6.6% engage is self-care every day. That is horrible! If it wasn’t for self-care I would be a mess all of the time. I make it my number one priority every day to make sure I take care of myself in some way. By me taking care of myself, I am able to take care of my husband, my responsibilities, my dog, family and friends. Only when we help ourselves first, are we able to effectively help others, and when you are happy, those around you are also happy.

First things first! There are no right or wrong ways to do self-care.¬†It is simply allowing yourself to do whatever it is you want. If that means sitting in silence for a minute or on the couch watching t.v. or just going for a walk, then you’re doing it! Having multiple self-care routines is important, that way you don’t get bored doing the same thing each time. It doesn’t matter what you do for a living, it is crucial for everybody. Once you realize the ways you changed by¬†making self-care a priority, you will easily be able to pick out those who don’t do it, or don’t do it as much.

Here are some of the ways I make sure to take care of myself!

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  • Having my nails done (most successful for me)
  • Makeup (more successful for me)
  • Baths
  • Blogging
  • Reading
  • Music

I recently realized that when I have my nails done, I have minimal anxiety.

Below¬†is my next self-care project. My bed is my happy place, and doesn’t that look wonderful?! Thanks for reading!

xo Courtney.

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